One can never say, “I’m not making a difference.”
About 20 years ago, I was having lunch with a friend of mine, a mentor type and he asked me (with that sinister look he had) what I wanted to do with my life. I remember telling him, that I wanted to make a difference with people. He said, “Well, Dean, Good or bad, you’re always making a difference.” It sizzled my brain a bit, but he was right; sometimes I was making a positive difference, other times the difference was pretty ugly, and yet things were always different after my positive actions, negative actions and even lack of action; impact never stopped. I’ve shared before that we were born to create and to generate, but also we were born to make a difference; meaning we cannot go month, a week, or a day without making some kind of difference… good or bad. Forgive the extreme nature of the analogy, but Charles Manson made a difference, Hitler made a difference, Osama Bin Laden made a difference just as Thomas Edison, Abraham Lincoln and Mother Theresa all made a difference. The difference is the kinds of impact that were made, but make no mistake about it, a big differences were made on all accounts. But also keep in mind that Tom, Abe and Theresa all made differences that were less than what they committed to because they are human and they would admit that. Why? Because they knew truth makes a positive difference, and that kind of difference was primary for them Now that it’s clear we are difference making machines (with no off switch) the question becomes what kind of difference is it that you are making in your life. Are you giving love or grief, providing serenity or anxiety, exposing positivity or skepticism, encouraging others or distressing them, promoting unity or separatism, delivering honesty or deception and exaggerations; ALL differences, ALL happening 24/7, ALL opportunities one way or the other. Make the kind of difference that grows, not slows things around you.
Are the differences I am making improving life or degrading life?
Are there new differences I’d like to integrate into my life?