Archives For February 2014


No one escapes difficulty. It’s part of life and a healthy part (maybe the healthiest part, if properly understood). Typically, difficulties will migrate from emotionally uncomfortable to devastating if they are viewed as unwarranted, have no use, or are not deserved. Aside from accidents and disease, most difficulties we experience result from our choice, not chance, meaning we are not victims of our difficulties, but collaborators at some level. Regardless, the final result of something going sideways should never be viewed as a crash to an end, but a journey into a new beginning. Whenever we see the end of something we value in sight, the first line of both defense and offense is a “beginning” of new behaviors to see if the end of that thing is certain. If your best effort and new behaviors confirm the inevitable end, new habits of improved behaviors and discipline are primed for a new vision and direction. The “catastrophic end” we often label is always a beginning in disguise, and the quicker we realize that, the sooner our resources become applicable to what’s next instead of what’s done. Crash into a new beginning today.


I just finished speaking at a weekend event called – The Mentor Conference. Twelve speakers, 24 workshops; drinking through a fire hose sums up the cranial overload. Yet, it was an amazing event. One speaker in particular shared a story that confirmed a immovable belief I’ve maintained over the last 14 years of mentoring others. That belief is that a single encounter where authentic conversation surfaces can do more to change circumstances for us than a big pile of books, workshops and blog posts – combined. The conversation this speaker referenced took place between two men running a half marathon, which tells me there’s no wrong place to have a meaningful conversation. But the threat against these rich, transformational conversations is always under attack due to an often-invented urgency; wanting to rip through conversations like a chainsaw through a log, as if there is only value in what is “next,” not what is “now.” It’s this disease of “next” that often puts relationships and conversations of now into a meaningless blur that we often regret – only to do it again. The value that reveals itself in conversations that move at the pace of relationship, and not agenda, are conversations that enahnce lives, hearts and minds in just minutes. The value to be had within these moments can compound into what could take weeks, months or years to discover. Consider the authenticity and your pace in conversations today.